Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Check out this new article about social anxiety http://www.recoveryview.com/2013/10/socially-phobic-extroverts-the-valedictorian-no-one-saw-alone/
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Tuesday, February 12, 2013
See my article in Medical News Today
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Saturday, December 15, 2012
Socially Phobic Extroverts: Part 2
These are red flags: Is
the child NEVER alone in public? Does she have
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many friends in school and many extracurricular activities, but never
invite a friend home. Does NO ONE
dislike him? Does he have so much to
say that he can't tolerate a pause? Does she never get angry or sad?
Does she do most of group projects
and avoid delegating? Does he resist
doing a solo task in class (hand out supplies, run in-school errands)?
Can he tolerate being wrong? Is
he the class clown? Is she NEVER with
unpopular classmates? Or, is she ALWAYS helping less social classmates.
Friday, October 19, 2012
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Sunday, September 16, 2012
SOCIALLY PHOBIC EXTROVERTS GO BACK TO SCHOOL: Many kids with severe social phobia are never identified. Teachers and
parents think popularity equals confidence. In fact, many social phobics are extroverts. They "have to" be the center of attention,
but suffer tremendously. They overcompensate by cleverly controlling situations to mask insecurities. They are frequently
the valedictorian, class president, or football captain who "no one would ever know" suffers painfully with extreme feelings
of embarrassment and isolation.
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Monday, August 6, 2012
Colorado Shooting: the tip of the iceberg
Nothing is new under the sun. Teens' brains
haven't mutated, but systemic changes in the surrounding community have. While each case is different, their frequency reflects
the real costs of untreated teen depression and the deteriorating social support that let's kids fall through the cracks of
an overburdened mental health system. The tragic killings are just the tip of an ignored iceberg that causes the full spectrum
of acting out behaviors. Regardless of one's position on guns, we can all agree the solution is best when the problem is still
small. Training teachers, clergy, and parents to read the red flags early on will have far larger an effect. Finally, educate
the kids themselves; make discussion of depression required in health and science classes in school. Encourage kids to tell
someone if they can't tell their folks. All of this wouldn't take much and would be more efficient than measures after a crime
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Tuesday, July 31, 2012
CAN WE FORESEE THE NEXT AURORA?
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Politicians on both sides express helplessness about avoiding the next
If there is one thing we've learned, regardless of
opinions on law enforcement, nothing is as effective as an educated
citizenry. Whether it's AIDS prevention, homeland security, financial whistle-blowing,
teen pregnancy, or neighborhood
crime patrols. All of these were
reduced by massive public education campaigns and by educated
The same could be said of detecting disturbed potentially
violent offenders. The public's understanding of mental illness,
well as professionals sorry ability to communicate it, is in the stone
age. In the golden age of the internet,
patients often know more than
their doctors. Not so with mental health. There are many reasons for
beyond the scope of this post. Better public education could have
helped most mentally I'll people to self diagnose
and seek help before
it affected the public. Education could have tipped off a number of
the public to those
who fell through thecracks of our mental health
system and prevented the terrible tragedies in Aurora, Columbine,
Arizona, Virginia, and elsewhere.
Sunday, July 8, 2012
COLD FEET FOR SUMMER WEDDINGS COULD BE OCD: Part 2
On the flip side, many other ROCD sufferers doubt their own love for their
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set up tests of their attraction and find endless minutiae wrong
with their partner. Some wonder if they are leading
their partner on, and feel
guilty they will eventually hurt or cheat on them. They break up repeatedly only
to reunite a few days later.
Sunday, April 15, 2012
JUNE WEDDINGS BRING NON-STOP LOVE DOUBTS
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hearts everywhere await June weddings. For millions, however, the "blessed day" is their worst fear, despite good
relationships, leaving them confused and conflicted, guilty or mistrustful, due to "Relationship OCD" or "ROCD."
is a form of OCD in which the sufferer has irrational doubts of their partner's love, and goes to extreme lengths to compulsively
check up on them. They constantly call them, or inspect their call or email history. Participation in wedding plans are one
of many tests of their partner's love. They analyze their words, tone of voice, and facial expressions. Eventually they cause
their relationship to dissolve, perhaps, even at the altar.
at this blog later for the rest of the story.
Monday, April 9, 2012
NOMOPHOBIA MISNOMER: DISGUISES 3 ILLNESSES, not a joke
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media coverage, nomophobia, fear of having no mobile phone service, actually is a disguised form of three disabling psychiatric
One is agoraphobia. People fear something bad will happen at any moment (heart attack, panic, etc.),
so they avoid or panic in situations when they worry there will be no help or escape. Those who panic or avoid traveling alone
to new or faraway places, or are claustrphobic, usually take a "safe person," in this case a cell phone.
The second is addiction. Workaholics constantly check and answer all emails
and texts, which only makes more people call them, increasing their work. Conversely, teens who measure self esteem by calls
and texts received, rather than face to face interactions, require increasing frequency of calls to attain the same "fix."
Moreover, smart phones now guide and entertain us in a myriad of ways, make people dependent on a gadget rather than learning
The third is OCD. Millions of OCD sufferers
rely on cell phones to excessively check the safety of loved ones, or to compulsively
seek reassurance of their fears. The cell has now removed all restraint on compulsions.
Ironically, constant call access also causes a new disconnection
and interpersonal tension. People are always doing something else when you call so you never have their full attention or
memory of the conversation. You're also always interrupting them, resulting in a rude
reply. It's like interrupting someone who's always watching the superbowl. Ultimately, people just stop checking
messages and voicemails altogether, defeating the benefits of mobile phone use.